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Learn How to Trust Again

Trust is the foundation of any relationship. A building block without which you are practically standing on receding sand and that’s not a good place to be in. But how do you trust again? How do you give someone your all when you are already healing from past wounds? How do you heal and learn that it’s ok to trust again? How do you know this person will not hurt you worse than the last or hurt you still? The answer is you don’t. Except for a better intuition and your emotional and mental guards, you don’t have a clue, and the sooner you accept this fact the better. 

The problem is that the longer you take to trust someone and the higher you keep your guards, the farther away you will push people and keep losing friends, relatives, and loved ones along with any potential chance at a meaningful relationship. We understand learning to trust someone all over again isn’t easy and have hence compiled a list of tools for you to refer to and learn to trust again. Thus, forming meaningful, long-lasting relationships. 

1. Embrace Your Vulnerability – Begin with opening up to your close ones. Start showing your true emotions in a safe setting and observe people as they love you back. Once you are confident, you can start slowly expressing your emotions and being vulnerable with people. Take it to step by step but move forward when you feel safe with someone. Unless you begin putting those walls down and expressing yourself, you won’t be able to experience love. Understand that when love exists, you can still get hurt but you can also mend quickly because of love. We don’t stop walking if we fall once while walking right? We just begin walking by watching the road. Do that. But don’t build walls around you. 

Embrace your emotions and love and embrace the love everyone has for you. 

2. Trust Yourself –

A big part of trusting others relays on trusting ourselves. If we aren’t able to trust ourselves, we can never trust other people. If you are on the other hand trusting of your own emotions, moods, and capabilities, you can trust others with ease and be confident that even if you face something unexpected, you can come out of it unscathed because you are capable. 

Also, you need to trust your ability to make good decisions and choices. 

As a Sadhak, know that your intuition and instincts are strong and right. Look at all your past decisions and see how most of them have turned to be positive. Also, see when decisions turned wrong when you decided to ignore your instinct. See what we are talking about? Now go back to your intuition and trust that it works towards your highest good. It will be easier to trust yourself then. 

Also, you can begin with choosing to cut things off with a person who broke your trust. That will help matters immensely. 

3. Forgive –

Forgiveness is for you and not them. As you forgive them, you aren’t just setting them free, you are setting yourself free as well. As you forgive people, you remind yourself that your life and you are bigger than that one hurt and that you are stronger than that one incident. That you can move past it live your life again and give a chance to someone else. That you believe that just because one person broke your trust doesn’t mean everyone will. More than this, you need to forgive yourself too. Remember that you were courageous to open up and be vulnerable and that you held your end of the bargain. So, you can’t feel guilty for someone else’s action. 

You can begin by saying the following affirmation every night before you sleep – 

“I am sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank-you and I Love You”

You are saying all these things to yourself, as you apologize for ignoring your basic instinct and ask for forgiveness so it can come back to you. You are thanking your basic instinct and yourself and telling 

yourself that you love you so that your relationship with yourself can be restored. Once this happens, you will begin seeing magic in your life manifest. 

4. Take Your Time – 

Just because you are learning to trust again doesn’t mean you have to do it quickly. Take your time to grieve first. Take your time to cry and feel the hurt leave you as the tears flow. Take your time to go running or walking or driving or whatever it is that makes you feel good. Heal the wound and heal it well so that it doesn’t re-emerge. It can take time and you have time. Life isn’t running away. But it will if you don’t deal with this. So, deal with it and rise all healed when you are ready. Your friends and family will understand. 

5. Keep Your Expectations High –

Just because you were hurt in the past doesn’t mean you need to lower your expectations. Keep the same expectations and you can also raise the bar because now you know better. Make a list and know which points are important and which aren’t. 

 Once you do this, you can scan people accordingly and make informed choices and decisions. 

Also, now when you meet your prospective partner, make your views and expectations clear to them so they know what they are getting into and ask them to do the same. 

The zero expectations narrative doesn’t work and people who say that they have zero expectations are indirectly asking you to expect zero from them as well. Decide if you want that. 

6. Do Sadhana –

As you perform Sadhana daily, your guardian angels, spirit guides, Ishta Deva, and Gurudev begin protecting you. Their blessings ensure that only people with the best intentions come in your life and that you aren’t hurt ever again. Sadhana also strengthens your intuitions a lot, and you can recognize vibes and people much better. 

Besides the above, you can also begin by stopping the victim mentality, leaving the past behind, considering the alternatives, and considering all future possibilities. 

We hope this blog helped you heal a little and understand the process of trusting again a little better. Feel free to write to us at info@chamundaswamiji.com for any further doubts or queries.